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September 15, 2015 at 2:24 pm #48402PattiParticipant
of Camila Banus a few years ago on One Life to Live. They came from Colombia. I think their name was Montez or something like that. Now, they will be father and daugter once again. Looking forward to this sl, since he is also going to not only be Rafe’s and Gabi’s father, but also Paige’s. Again, everyone related to everyone else makes it hard to find a date in Salem. LOL!
September 16, 2015 at 5:52 pm #48447cjwestParticipantI figured he would be Rafe’s long lost father. Not a problem with him being Eve’s past husband. But it seems unlikely that a picture or a name would have come up somewhere letting Rafe know that he was Eve’s ex. this is really a stretch that he is related to both of them.
September 17, 2015 at 1:37 am #48451justwonderingParticipantEve never had any pictures nor discussed her ex. It seems that Rafe father hasn’t been in the picture for a long time, so it could happen.
September 18, 2015 at 1:18 pm #48467BonbonParticipanta kid would know if his father got married? Was he living on the moon or something? The only explanation I could accept is that it was maybe a one-night stand or something. Heck, maybe he doesn’t even know Paige existed.
September 18, 2015 at 1:45 pm #48470PattiParticipantto Rafe’s mother.
September 19, 2015 at 2:18 am #48477justwonderingParticipantMy father left when I was 7 years old. I had a couple of phone calls and then nothing. When I was graduationg from high school 10 years later, he wrote me a letter that he wanted to get to know me.
We met for dinner where he introduced me to his wife of 8 years that I never knew existed. So I can say that if is very possible. Especailly if someone left and you never heard from them again. There are plenty of fathers who desert their families and never look back.
By the way I never heard from him again even though I had gotten married and had children, until he was on his death bed and wanted me to visit. He told me that he had kept "tabs" on me and knew all about my family. He wanted to see me "one more time".
I chose not to go!
September 19, 2015 at 2:13 pm #48484PattiParticipantalthough that is so sad to hear because you were so very young, but you found the strength to survive and I admire and congratulate you. I had a similar situation but did not fully understand and suffered in silence for years, and it also took me years to stop blaming my mother. There are many children who are deserted by what is commonly referred to as "deadbeat dads." I’m sure many of them were affected by their father’s rejection. I have a feeling you may have been one of the "lucky" ones. I wish you and your family the best life can bring.
September 19, 2015 at 5:29 pm #48494justwonderingParticipantThank you Patti. It took a long time for me to talk about it, and I have told very few people. However, I guess because this board is anonymous it is easier to share my story. Even though I have never physically met all of you, I feel close enough to explain my story.
In retrospect, I feel it was easier on me because I was never torn between spending holidays at 2 houses nor put in the middle of any fights. I see that conflict in my grandson’s life as he goes to his father’s (when he shows up to get him).
Ironically, my mother and sister DID go to visit him as he was dying and encouraged me to also visitl I just didn’t see the need to go. Maybe I didn’t want to give him a chance to ease his conscience.
Anyway, i am sure there are some ways I was affected, but I think that I have adjusted well. I was lucky to have a father figure in my uncle (mom’s brother). I have 5 kids and just had our 8 grandchild so I feel very fulfilled.
September 19, 2015 at 10:31 pm #48495caseyParticipantyour having the courage to share your story. And to show those with absentee parents don’t turn to drugs and crime and blame their upbringing for their actions like those on Days! I bet you’re one terrific mom and grandma!
September 19, 2015 at 11:13 pm #48497justwonderingParticipantI have always believed that a person can be whatever they want by working hard and living right. I was lucky to have a wonderful mother who instilled morals and faith in God in me. I went to college, graduate school and had a teaching career of 40 years. I worked everyday and raised 5 kids along with my husband of 41 years.
Now I am retired and enjoy my grandkids.
I have no patience for people who say they had a bad childhood andcan’t help themselves.
September 21, 2015 at 6:09 pm #48513PattiParticipantas well as Kassie DePaiva’s, was truly fabulous while heartbreaking. I swear, if KDP doesn’t win the Emmy for this year for how she is handling Paige’s death, they are truly fixed. I loved the pics of Paige as a baby. I think they may have been True’s actual baby pictures. Beautiful performance by both of these wonderful actors today!!!
September 21, 2015 at 6:20 pm #48514JohnnyboyParticipantI can honestly say I never met my father. He married my mother, got her pregnant (with me) then announced he
was going to England to be with his parents and demanded my mother go with him. She refused and he simply
walked out and never came back. He never gave child support and never tried to get in contact with me. I wonder
if he told his parents they were going to become grandparents. No one tried to ever write or call. I have no idea
if he is alive or dead. He would be the same age as my mother who is 86.
Do I miss never meeting my father? Not at all. I am an only child and so is my mother so we are all we have left.
Mother is in a nursing home with Alzheimer’s.
You cannot miss or grieve for something you never had…..September 21, 2015 at 8:12 pm #48515caseyParticipantto hear about your mom’s health and how tough it must be on you as well. I will keep her in my prayers. Life has been particularly challenging for many on this forum and a reminder of how resilient you all are and how inspired I am to hear your stories.
September 21, 2015 at 8:17 pm #48516caseyParticipanta bit late on AM’s intro. I assumed he maybe did not know Paige was his daughter, but apparently he did? Did he choose to stay out of her life or wonder what the story is there? Maybe I missed it?
At any rate, if Kassie doesn’t at least earn a nomination for her great work, that will be a crime. Yes, I feel her pain!September 21, 2015 at 8:22 pm #48517justwonderingParticipantThanks for sharing. It seems we have a bit in common. Glad you and your mom had each other and you have good memories of her. Sorry she isn’t well. Try to hold on to our memories. and may God bless you.
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