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have one full-time job!! I often wonder how I’ve done it all these years! I very much appreciate your acknowledgment of the importance of our family farms.
First name: Maria
From: Bloomfield, NJ
Age: 41
Marital status: Married 12/01/07
Kids: none
Pets, 1 pug named Otis
Been watching Days: 23 years
Favorite character: Used to be Jennifer, now it’s probably Victor.
Name – Wendy
Age: 43
From: Pittsburgh, PA
Married 15 years
2 daughters, ages 12 and 13
2 cats – Jasmine and Lily
Been watching since the very early 80"s, I remember when Bo and Hope first came on
Favorite character – many over the years; John Black, Jack and Jennifer, always loved Bo ( until lately ! ),
First Name: Johnnie
Age: 64!!!! still don’t know how I got to be this old
From: Mississippi
Martial Status: Divorced after nearly 30 years of marriage
Kids: 2 girls 6 grandchildren, 3 of each
Pets: 2 dogs
Been watching Days: since it came on in 1965
Favorite character: all-time favorites John & Marlena, various others since they’ve been gone
First name: Ginny
From: Tennessee
Age: 66
Marital status: divorced
Kids: 1 son, 1 daughter, (4 g. Kids)
Pet: Pet free at this time
Watched Days: So long that I have forgotten some stories and people
Favorite character: Victor is the man!!
Name: Jenn (surprised?)
From: Originally from Chelsea, Quebec, Canada. Now in the Atlanta are for the last 10 years.
Age: 42 – for another month!
Kids: A son who will be 16 in a couple of weeks and a daughter about to turn 18. Where did *that* time go?
Marital Status: Divorced after 15 years, still good friends with my ex-husband and we co-own a business together. Happily co-habitating with my gentleman companion of 2 1/2 years and life is good! (And my ex-h and my b’friend get along very well together – as weird as that might seem!)
Pets: 2 dogs (one’s Brian’s, one’s mine) – Holly & Sophie, a cat, Marvin (he’s my daughter’s) and 3 conures (parrots) who live at the shop: Pepe, Woodstock & Petrie. 2 reef aquariums at home, and a few "pet" fish etc., at the shop (ones we won’t sell).
Been watching Days: Since the early 80s. I guess Bo and Hope were the teen scene. I got hooked! Been watching on and off ever since. Even though I have maintained this board for about 12 years now, there have been long periods when I’ve tuned out, partly or even completely for months at a time. I always come back though – eventually!
I’m so happy to hear someone else gets along with their ex. My first DH and I have remained exceptional friends (been divorced for 33 years now, 2nd DH died of cancer but wasn’t especially with the program). Anyway, I love his wife dearly and although they live in California, when they come this way to see youngest son or I go west to see oldest, we always get together. They even stay with me when they come to FL and we have gone on vacations together.
I think it’s a real shame that people can’t get past their differences of being married once it is over. Of course there are exceptions like cruelty, etc., that are just too hard to forgive and forget. I decided that we have kids together and it is so much easier all the way around, for all of us, to be civil to each other. The kids have said more than once how happy they are with this arrangement…especially on holidays. But, for it to work, you’ve got to put the bad stuff behind you. You’ve got to remember that you loved him once so there must be something good there. So, good for you Jenn.
I’m not friends with my ex but I kicked him out after a year of marriage when I found out at age 27 he was dating a 16 year old high school student on a work program where he worked. Thankfully there weren’t any kids.
My stepdaughter was visiting from Sweden with her boyfriend over Thanksgiving and decided to get married while they were here. We threw a wedding together in 4 days and he mother and grandfather drove to Alabama from Oklahoma. I’d never met my husband’s ex before and he said it was strange to see his current wife sitting at a table in deep conversation with his ex. I figured the day wasn’t about her, I or my husband but about my stepdaughter and I could put on a happy face and be nice to anybody for her sake.
I just hate when ex’s can’t even be in the same room with each other and call each other names when they have children. That puts the kids in a position that they feel they have to choose and it’s harder when they get older and there are weddings and grandchildren.
I have a friend who’s parents got divorced when she was younger and years later her father started dating and eventually married one of her mother’s friends. She was fine with it. The first time I’d met her father and his wife was at a bible study at his home and her mother’s current husband was there as well. It was strange to see them get along as it’s not the norm but I realized it’s what should happen.
Last year at Christmas, staying at my son’s home was me, my ex DH and his wife, my DIL’s mom, her ex DH and his wife, DIL’s mom’s fiance, and DIL’s dad (her mom’s first ex DH). There were exes all over the place.
When ex DH’s wife’s son got married, it was similar. My ex and his wife, his wife’s ex husband and his wife, my ex and his wife, all at the same table. I guess it’s pretty strange for so many so closely tied together to be like that but we sure have some interesting conversations. It’s probably a good thing my second DH passed away or there might have been even more, although he wasn’t friendly at all with his ex…OR mine!
I used to work with a guy who was so bitter over his divorce (and this was after many years, he would not even pick up his kids for his visitation if she was there. I don’t know what’s going to happen when his two girls get married. I hope he doesn’t stay home and deny them the priviledge of him walking them down the isle. What a shame.
I guess we should start a new thread or rename this one. But, I guess it IS getting to know you…and all our exes too!
Life is just too short to waste your energy holding a grudge. Actually, I should have mentioned before (when I was on my soap box) that I meant it was important to remain friendly when there are kids involoved. If not, it really doesn’t make a whole lot of difference. Unless you’re like my neighbor who dispises her ex but loves his family. Don’t ask me about them!!!I had a cousin who’s wife left him for another man and he never got over his bitterness. Refused to be in the same room with his ex’s new husband. When his daughter got married he’d let it be known if his her mother’s husband was there he wouldn’t be. His daughter had to tell her mother she could not bring her husband to the wedding. When his son got married 8 months later it was the same thing all over again. A few years later his daughter (ex’s daughter that was 8 months old when they got married and he adopted her) got married in a small ceremony with a family gathering at his son’s house. I picked him up and drove and he was so upset because his ex’s husband was there and he felt trapped.
My opinion, you’re the adult, act like one. You can be civil without being friends for the sake of your kids.
Through all that when he was diagnosed with cancer his ex would drive him to doctor appointments and she was there at the hospital when he died.
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