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Have you ever been to a gay wedding like that? I don’t mean just one in front of a Justice of the Peace but one with all the flowers and the hoopla Will and Sonny had. Although it hasn’t been too long since gays could even marry, it seems they tend to stay with the understated civil ceremonies.
I have only been to one but they were women (who had been living together for 30-some years and both in their 60s) but it wasn’t that much of a celebration, just something to make it legal and then on to the reception. I would like to see a gay wedding that is all done up with the flowers, flower girl/boy, best man/woman, music, limos and all the other stuff that you typically see at a wedding. Just wondered if you ever have?
I forgot, did you say where you live? Is gay marriage legal where you are? I know this is personal but do you want to get married (assuming you’re not already)? :o) I had a friend (he passed away last year) who had been living with his partner for 20 years but said he never wanted to marry because it would too hard to walk away if he ever stopped loving him. But then, I guess there are straight people with the same feelings.
Actually, these days I think weddings have gotten way out of hand. All the planning, stress and money goes into them just seems to be such extravagance and often appears to be just something to impress friends. But I feel the same way about proms and bar mitzvahs. A friends daughter just had a bat mitzvah which was supposedly going to be “not a big affair” and she spent over $15,000. And I’ve heard of parents spending in excess of $100,000 on bar mitzvahs and weddings and going deep into debt to do it. And so often the weddings end up in a divorce. Seems like such a waste.
Gee, I didn’t mean to go off on a tangent here…sorry.
that said average wedding cost is $30,000. Yikes! It’s far more about making a splash and self-indulgence than comitments these days. I feel it’s too easy for people to divorce and they don’t put in the effort. That is, if they ever were in it for life in the first place.
Your post def. got me thinking LOL…
I am not married no… But it’s legal here where I live (N.Y.C.) so it can be done
I have been to a wedding where it was my friend and his husband. Very over the top and in my opinion – a bit much. But that’s how they live their every day so it shocked no one. Do I want to get married?!? I dunno… I’m not sure and I don’t know if one can answer that 100%. Who knows right? I say never say never. Though I do feel, at this point in my mid 30s, that I sort of like the "I have my space and you have yours" scenario I’m currently in. I sleep there on occasion – you sleep here.. but we have separate domains. Though who knows how and when that can change right?
It’s true though how pricey they are – it’s like HELLO…. go put a down payment on a house instead LOL. For me – it would totally be a destination wedding. Fifty people max – on a beach… just a lovely time. That’s more my scene.
P.S. – I like that you asked… much appreciated. I alluded to you in a different thread and then I saw this. Funny timing!!!
I think too many young people equate the amount you spend on the wedding with how good the marriage will be. Really quite sad. I agree with you TFlo, I think a down payment on a home would be better. My husband and I had a lovely wedding within our budget, had bought a house a few months before the wedding and are still together 19 years later.
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