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I loved the scene with Marlena and Brady in the square today. It really showed how she would never take any guff from Brady and she saw right through his excuses. She was gentle yet firm and pragmatic. Brady is no match for her. I hope he gets his act together. Overall I found this scene to be very realistic and well acted by both. It was interesting to get Brady’s side of the issue. All this criticism of him from John has been happening off screen.
as I’ve heard my youngest son say the exact same things about his dad…about never doing anything right, not being able to live up to his standards or please him, always telling him how he should be living his life. I wonder how many adult sons have this "perception" of their fathers, and I say "perception" because when you are on the outside, looking in, you see an entirely different picture.
it’s Marlena. Brady has been holding all of this animosity for John inside for so long, and for the life of me I can’t remember it ever being this bad, that I’m now realizing why he’s suddenly turned so dark. Then, to make matters worse, he’s sort of been facing those same conflicts with Victor. I like Brady a little darker rather than the ‘Dudley Do-Right’ they made him out to be with both Nicole and Arianna, but this is a little too dark. I hope he goes to see John soon and works this all out, because the love is there. He’s just built a wall around himself, determined not to let John back in. Madison and Marlena seem to have a certain respect for one another, so maybe between the two of them they will be able to convince Brady to at least give his father a chance.
How true BonBon. I see it with my own 3 sons. My husband likes to give advice and often they do not want to hear it. He is tough on them and they feel that they are adults.
I always said that a mother’s job was to help child fly and a father’s job was to bring tham back down. As a person gets older they realize that parents try to help with experience they had. Unfortunately when you are young you think you know everything.
I think most sons feel that their dads are too tough on them. It is a complicated relationship. But in most cases down with love. Being a parent is the toughest job with no manual to help.
My DH has the same feelings about his father, but as an outsider I agree. He is way more tough on him than his sister. My DH has done extremely well for himself, yet for the longest time his father would find something to nit pick at. I HATED being around his father because then we would come home and he would be so depressed. I think sometimes fathers take it too far when it comes to their sons. They need to learn to congratulate them for their successes in addition to giving them advice. And father’s are not always right with their advice either. Especially when they are adults, the child needs to learn to make their own mistakes. I know when we moved in together we went price shopping for furniture. We went everywhere and decided to get good wood furniture that had to be stained. We found some "broken" pieces on sale and since DH is handy he could fix them, stain them, and we would have really nice furniture. My DH was so excited about finding this furniture and that he would be able to fix it up. You know what his father said?!? Why did you get new furniture, when me and your mom moved in together we bought used furniture and that worked for us". Well you know what? It doesn’t work for us. We both went to college, got really good jobs, and could afford way more than the furniture that we did buy. But we both wanted to conserve money so we found a good way of finding stuff cheap, but would last us a long time. Used furniture would be cheap, but would not last as long. I think sometimes fathers need to step back and remember that it is different times now and that they don’t always know everything going on in their kids lives. So they can’t always judge them.
Moving on to today…. the relationship is better. I think his father finally figured out he was pushing his son away as we visited less and less. So his father has learned to keep his mouth shut and also congratulate DH way more than he ever did.
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