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and believe she is her own worst enemy, and further believe that everything Marlena tells her is true. But you are absolutely right in this one: Marlena’s double standard here is plain wrong.
I think I’m in the minority here but I feel that since Sami has done some pretty horrific things, that Marlena can’t help but be more sympathetic to Carrie. At least Carrie hasn’t raped somebody, stole her baby sister (when Belle was a baby), injected her step-father with drugs, lied about paternity of Will, slept with her enemy, and the million other terrible things she’s done. I’m not excusing Carrie’s behavior because it is so ridiculous and unbelievable how she is acting but at least she’s not a calculating, scheming you know what. She even asked Marlena if she, Carrie, will always want to be with someone else when she’s with someone or something to that effect. At least she’s being honest about herself whereas Sami would always blame somebody else. Marlena should not be encouraging Carrie to be with Rafe, but I can see how she shows more sympathy towards Carrie for being honest.
I agree 100% with what you’re saying. I think it’s only natural that Marlena would have a hard time showing as much love/understanding/sympathy for Sami as she does for Carrie. Carrie had never given her any trouble or grief while growing up as opposed to Sami who was always doing something stupid (only a few of which you mentioned, MK).
Yes, you’re not supposed to show partiality to any one child but it’s very hard in circumstances like theirs. I know. My first son was an angel while the other was into something everytime he turned around. (Fortunately, he outgrew that!) So it was difficult, as much as I tried, to understand him when it seemed I was always on his back for something he was doing or had done. Not the best way to parent but almost impossible to do otherwise.
So, although I agree Marlena hasn’t been the paragon of motherhood, how she has treated these two has been very understandable.
I don’t know. I think Carrie is probably being the least honest of all these supposedly honest people on the show. Well, disingenuous I guess is the word. As far as I can see she deliberately set out to seduce Rafe, with all that ice cube shtick and what not. And as far as being nicer to Carrie because she is a better person, well as a shrink it is Marlena’a job not to judge, as she keeps telling Will but just to be there. Why can’t she do the same for Sami especially since her sister is trying to jump her husband?
As far as one child being more difficult than the other, well I have four sons and I know how different they can be. you have to just love them for who THEY are, not compare one to the others. Usuallly the more "difficult" ones end up the best, if you know how to work with them. That is what Marlena would tell someone else and she oughta be practicing what she preaches.
Yes, Marlena is a psychiatrist, but this is her family. Carrie has always been more of a loving daughter to her. Sami is forever telling Marlena that every bad thing that has happened to Sami can be traced back to Marlena not being there for her. It doesn’t seem to matter that for the most part Marlena wasn’t there cause she was kidnapped be Stefano, or by the fact the Sami made her own bed. Sami has NEVER owned anything she has done—it is far easier to blame Marlena.
Carrie has always looked to Marlena for advise and approval. She is easier to care for.
That being said, it is not easy to treat all your children alike. I have 5 kids and each has been my "favorite" at different times in their live. It is all about who needs me the most at the time. Whoever it is becomes the ‘favorite". it is not about loving one the best as much as who needs the love the most at that moment. Hopefully it is not all of them at the same time!!!!
On a daily basis one child can be more of your "favorite" than the other. But overall you need to bear in mind that they are individuals just like we are and that means loving them no matter what and not advising one to go ahead and ruin the other’s marriage. Would you do that even if that one was your favorite that day?
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