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I think one of the reasons I am not into the Summer SL is that Maggie is dealing with more than enough. With her paralysis/ upcoming surgery and Victor’s attack – not to mention the Deimos stuff – to bring on a major event like a daughter reappearing just can’t do it justice, or at least the attention it deserves. It doesn’t help that Summer says she’s staying, then going, then staying…
I think my issue is the math doesn’t work out and I’m still thinking Summer isn’t who she says she is. She and Dario made me believe it was all a scam from the get go. I’m hoping they wrap this up soon because most of us are not interested in it.
much more emotion and connection between mother and daughter, more like the Mel/Maggie relationship. This just plain leaves me cold and can’t wait for Summer’s exit.
Considering the circumstances of their relationship, I think it would be very strain. Think of the history,
1. Summer showed up claiming she was Maggie’s daughter
2. Maggie is shocked so summer runs off thinking she is being rejected again
3. Maggie explains that she was told her baby died so Summer now believes that Maggie did want her and it happy.
4. Maggie confesses (which I can’t understand why she told her this) that she didn’t want her and gave her away. Now Summer has been rejected twice!! orse
At this point Summer is crushed and it doesn’t help that Green-eyed Theresa is dumping on her as well. What is worse -thinking your mother didn’t want you or finding out she did and then learning she really didn’t!! That’s enough to push someone oever the edge (sho already tried suicide)
I have my own ideas about children who are searching for their "birth Parents". I really believe that the child needs to look forward, not back. I also believe that it is hurtful for the adoptive parents when the child "needs" to find their birthmothe. A parent is the one who raised yo, walked the floor with you when you were sick, hekpedyou with your homework, took you to school, clothed and fed you, not a person who gave birth to you. JMHO
I would completely back off. But if Summer is close to going over the edge geesh, what about Maggie? The poor woman believes she won’t walk again and she also has to worry about her husband’s health. But when Mags told Summer she didn’t want her I’m sure she will further explain that was her original reaction and that she’s been haunted by it all the years since.
But JW, I tend to agree with you on a child’s search for the birth mother. This is from the parent side and I can imagine how hurtful it might be. I also frown on the idea of birth parents choosing the adoptive parents and getting all cozy with them. I realize it can work in some cases, but I just don’t agree.As an adopted child I would point out that the search for birth parents shouldn’t be seen as a rejection of the adoptive parents. Of course they are the true parents but for some of us there is still a curiosity. Is there someone who resembles me? Is there any helpful medical information? These are just a few of the reasons people search for bio parents. They are very rarely looking for a replacement parent. That being said, many parents involved in closed adoptions do not wish to be found. It can be very difficult and you might not get the response you expect.
My husband and his brother are both adopted, not from the same birth parents. Neither of them have any interest in finding their birth parents. WA state allows them to find medical records without revealing their birth parents names and I still can’t convince my husband to get that information. I think adoptees all have different approaches to their relationships with their biological parents and we can’t really question a person’s motivation or lack there of.
My ex DH’s wife who is in her 60’s just found out she has a brother in Norway and what an exciting thing that was. Completely different than a parent/child but still, I think it was wonderful to find a relative you didn’t know you had, no matter what the circumstances…as long as both are on the same page. Of course opinions vary and I can respect that but, boy, I’d sure like to know. But the first thing that comes to mind is “What/why/how/who,” etc.
In Summers case I don’t know how she can interpret it as Maggie not wanting her. Heck, she didn’t know her and the circumstances certainly warranted her decision. There are way too many people out there in families that are not wanted and way too many people wanting families that can’t get them.
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